“Hey girl” was the start of the message I received from a member at True.com. He went on to say how beautiful I was and despite his younger age, I would not be disappointed if I chose to contact him. Based on what little information his profile offered, he didn’t really seem to be my type but I thought maybe it was time to explore something different and not be so quick to write someone off that I know nothing about. I wanted to try something new and see what would become of this. The next message I received from him was with his phone number and I was slightly taken aback because I didn’t know him and I thought it was on the inappropriate side. So, I told him that I’d hold on to the number but I thought it would be best if we just communicated via email for a while. He agreed and that was the beginning.
He and I exchanged casual emails for a couple months and in those emails I noticed some reoccurring grammatical errors and spelling mistakes that made me cringe. I brushed it of saying I was being overly critical as usual and I needed to stop judging him. I decided to take it to the next step and finally use the phone number he had given me. I sent him a few text messages and we decided to meet up one evening for a movie or something. It seemed that every time we scheduled a date something else came up and one of us had to cancel. This continued for a couple weeks. I should have taken this as a sign…
Finally, we both agreed upon a date and neither of us cancelled. I was looking forward to it because it felt like the first step in my journey and I thought and I had nothing to lose. I just wanted a chance to get out of the house and do something; join the living. I should have known the date would have been a disaster based upon the hours leading up to it. When he texted me early in the day about going out later that night, I was at the pool enjoying a relaxing day and the first thought I had was “oh no, what am I gonna do with my hair?” When I got back inside, I realized that I had bigger problems than my hair. I had a pretty bad sunburn and hoped that I would be able to cover it up somehow. Next, I couldn’t find anything to wear. I went through outfit after outfit trying to find the right balance between casual and sexy. I then found out that my Aunt had the car and no one could find her or get in contact with her. I was frantic because I thought I was going to have to cancel again. She finally showed up at my house with the car 20 minutes before I was supposed to meet this guy at movies. Lucky for me, the movie theater was close to home and I was able to get there on time.
I stood outside the theater feeling oh so cute in my skinny jeans and low cut top. I heard a deep voice say my name and I turned around sexily to see a very tall underdressed thug. Let’s just say that I was not a happy camper. I don’t do ghetto. That, to me, is one of the biggest turnoffs. He was wearing one of those long white t-shirts and I was embarrassed to be seen in public with him especially since he gestured for a hug right away. I sucked it up and said its only one date and maybe he has a nice personality that can make up for everything else. We decided to see “Terminator Salvation” and that, as well as seeing Jeff Foxworthy in the lobby, was definitely the highlight of the entire evening especially since he didn’t hold the door for me nor did was I offered anything from the snack counter. Anyway, I suppose I’ll get over it. My date and I talked randomly for a while before the movie started. I found out some pretty interesting things in this conversation. I found out that he was younger than he first mentioned and that high school “wasn’t for [him]”. In our earlier emails he mentioned he attended one of the local high schools and I just assumed that he had graduated. Silly me, I should have known that to assume just makes an ass out of you and me but in my case, just me.
Thankfully, the movie was so action packed that I could get lost in it and forget about everything around me. He appeared bored and seemed to doze off throughout the movie and I just couldn’t understand why. It was fantastic. Terminator was filled with all these gorgeous men. Any of which I would be glad to be with at that very moment. When the movie was over, I was overjoyed that I could go home. We walked out the theater and I was ready to say our good byes and go our separate ways but he had other Ideas. He asked what I wanted to do now and I said bluntly “go home”. I didn’t want to hurt his feelings but I was being honest. He insisted he wanted to walk me to my car so he could see what it looks like. I wouldn’t have had a problem with is if he had come up with a better excuse like he wanted to make sure I got there safely considering it was late. We parted ways with a hug and him saying he wants to do this again. I responded with a simple “I’ll text you”.
After the date, I almost wanted to give up on online dating and dating itself altogether but I realized that, despite everything, It was an experience. Not necessarily a good one but it could have been worse. I’m not completely bummed because this is what my whole journey is about. I gained experience and I learned things about myself such as what I will and will not tolerate in people that I surround myself with. Was he a bad person? Absolutely not. Was he bad for me? I might have to say yes on that one. I lived, I learned, and I got to see “Terminator Salvation” for free.
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